I’ve been thinking a lot about subtext recently – when someone says something that doesn’t match up to what they actually think or mean – and it got me thinking about some of the things people said to me in the days, weeks, months, even years, after my husband left me.
“You’re better off without him.”
“Think of it as being released.”
“He was a weight around your neck.”
“I never trusted him.”
“The first time my husband cheated on me would be his last time.”
“You should have walked out years ago.”
I know what my friends and family were trying to do. They were trying to comfort me. Support me. Help me. Love me. I know they were, but sometimes those words of ‘support’ cut me to the core.
Because if you really look at those phrases, and how they can be interpreted by someone who is in emotional pain, it’s not hard to read the subtext behind them. Continue reading